Life Explained

Author Unknown

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long," answered the Mexican.

"But then, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked the American.

The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The American asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs. I have a full life."

The American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?" asked the Mexican.

"With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angelas, or even New York City! From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?" asked the Mexican.

"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years," replied the American. "And after that?"

"Afterwards? Well my friend, that's when it gets really interesting," answered the American, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?" asked the Mexican.

"After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends."

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What is important

Author Unknown

A young boy watched as his father walked into the living room …

The boy noticed that his younger brother, John, began to cower slightly as his father entered. The older boy sensed that John had done something wrong. Then he saw from a distance what his brother had done. The younger boy had opened his father's brand new hymnal and scribbled all over the first page with a pen.

Staring at their father fearfully, both brothers waited for John's punishment. Their father picked up his prized hymnal, looked at it carefully and then sat down, without saying a word. Books were precious to him; he was a minister with several academic degrees. For him, books were knowledge.

What he did next was remarkable. Instead of punishing his brother, instead of scolding, or yelling, his father took the pen from the little boy's hand, and then wrote in the book himself, alongside the scribbles that John had made. Here is what that father wrote: "John's work, 1959, age 2. How many times have I looked into your beautiful face and into your warm, alert eyes looking up at me and thanked God for the one who has now scribbled in my new hymnal. You have made the book sacred, as have your brother and sister to so much of my life." "Wow," thought the older brother, "This is punishment?"

Since that time, the hymnal has become a treasured family possession. It is tangible proof that their parents loved them. It taught the lesson that what really matters is people, not objects; patience, not judgment; love, not anger.

The Obstacles In Our Path

Author Unknown

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded.

After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway.

The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."

Life is Like a Cup of Coffee

Author Unknown

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups ... and then you began eyeing each other's cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups! The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

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Mindfulness Practice

“Before enlightenment chop wood and carry water.

After enlightenment, chop wood and carry water.” – Wu Li

Mindfulness develops the skills of attention and concentration, with the focus of one's attention on emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment, to intentionally accept without judgment, which can be trained by meditational practices.

Mindfulness, which is an essential element of Buddhist practice, is also an attribute of consciousness long believed to promote well-being. Studies have indicated that the construct of mindfulness is strongly correlated with well-being and health; effectively reducing stress, anxiety and depression.

The essence of mindfulness is acting with undivided attention. Mindfulness is the discipline of doing one thing at a time with awareness — the opposite of how most people operate. Most of us think that if we do several things at once, we will accomplish more. However, those that do one thing at a time actually accomplish more than those who multi-task.

There are several advantages to doing one thing at a time besides increased productivity. When thoughts are racing, concentrating on one thing slows the mind. Doing one thing at a time decreases anxiety by focusing the mind on one thing, pushing from one’s mind preoccupations and worries.

You must guard your psychological space like a guard at the gate. The guard is alert to everything that happens. Like the guard, be alert to every thought, emotion, and distraction that crosses your psychological space. Such mind watching brings your attention back to the present moment. It is okay to take a zigzag path as you criss-cross psychological space to overcome distractions and return to the object of your attention.

Zen monks, are a great inspiration in the way they live their lives: the simplicity, concentration and mindfulness of every activity, the calm and peace they find in their days. For hundreds of years, Zen monks have devoted their lives to being present in everything they do, to being dedicated and to serving others. It serves as an example for our own lives.

Who among us couldn't use a little more concentration, tranquility, and mindfulness in our lives?

There are certain principles that can be applied to any life, no matter what your religious beliefs, spiritual beliefs, or your standard of living.

“Zen is not some kind of excitement, but

concentration on our usual everyday routine.” – Shunryu Suzuki

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1. DO ONE THING AT A TIME: When you are eating, eat. When you are walking, walk. When you are bathing, bathe. When you are working, work. When you are in a group, or a conversation, focus your attention on the very moment you are with the other person. Do each thing with all of your attention.

If other actions, or other thoughts, or strong feelings distract you, let go of distractions and go back to what you are doing – again, and again, and again.

Concentrate your mind. If you find you are doing two things at once, stop and go back to one thing at a time.

When you are eating, eat

It is not unusual to mindlessly eat while watching TV, reading the paper, or walking around. Eating mindfully is very different experience than the way you normally eat. Mindfully eating concentrates on the eating experience. Only in the present moment do you experience the sensations of eating. When you are present you can taste, feel, and smell your food. The sensations are fleeting and there are many distractions. Mindful eating requires a commitment to do so. Eating a meal mindfully entails the effort to turn your mind away from distractions and return over and over to eating. You are more likely to notice when you are feeling full when eating this way. If you pay attention to the sensation of satiety, you will probably stop eating sooner. Eating can be an opportunity to learn self-control (directing your mind back to eating) and self-discipline (committing to restarting when you stray).

When you are walking, walk

Walking, too, can be a way to take hold of your mind. This is mentioned in the describe section, “… say in your mind … walking, step, step, step …” Describing walking this way slows your mind and focuses your mental energy on the “here” where you are, how you feel, what you are doing, and your breathing.

When you are bathing, bathe

Some people have a routine they go through every time they shower that allows them to concentrate on their actions mindfully. Focusing exclusively on this activity is peaceful and calming. Self-soothing with sensations of bathing copes with stress, relieves anxiety, and cultivates mindfulness.

Notice the feel, sound, and sight of water. Notice the smell of soap and shampoo. Notice the difference between wet and dry, hot and cold. Notice the transitions between turning on the water, getting in the water, wetting hair, shampooing, soaping, turning off the water, and drying. You will have the opportunity to repeat your observations daily.

When you are working, work

Work offers many opportunities for doing one thing at a time and overcome distractions. You may be surprised at how much you can be done if you set your mind to it. Such a commitment helps you learn mastery, doing one thing each day to make yourself feel competent and in control.

Think about what your work really is. Consider how your work expresses you and your place in the world. What attitude do you bring to the work you do? What part of your work is play and what part of play is work? What is your life’s work?

When you are in a group, or a conversation, focus your attention on the very moment you are in with the other person.

In conversation, your ability to be interpersonally effective increases by practicing mindfulness. No matter how nervous you are with another person, focusing your attention on the very moment liberates you from doubt, worry, stress, and fear. Part of mindfulness is letting go of what is interfering with complete involvement. Try mindfulness with a “boring” speaker. You might notice he or she becomes more interesting. People become more interesting when you show your interest in them.

2. DO IT SLOWLY AND DELIBERATELY: Do one task at a time, taking your time, and moving slowly. Make your actions deliberate, not rushed and random. It takes practice, but it helps you focus on the task.

Do each thing with all of your attention. The hard work of doing each thing with all your attention is a choice. Although the idea is simple the result of doing one thing with all your attention is powerful.

If other actions, or other thoughts, or strong feelings distract you, let go of distractions and go back to what you are doing – again, and again, and again.

Step back and be aware of what you are doing. If a thought enters the psychological space between you and the object of your attention, let the thought pass and go back to what you are doing. Distractions will enter your psychological space – let them go and turn your mind. A deceptively simple strategy when you find your thoughts wandering astray is to say to yourself, “Be here now” and turn your mind toward what you are doing.

3. DO IT COMPLETELY: Put your mind completely on the task. Don’t move on to the next task until you are finished. If, for some reason, you have no choice but to move on to something else, try to at least put away the unfinished task and clean up after yourself. If you prepare a sandwich, don’t start eating it until you have put away the stuff you used to prepare it, wiped down the counter, and washed the dishes used for preparation. Then you’re done with that task, and can focus more completely on the next task.

4. DO LESS: A Zen monk doesn’t lead a lazy life — he wakes early and has a day filled with work. However, he doesn’t have an unending task list either — there are certain things he’s going to do today, and no more. If you do less, you can do those things more slowly, more completely and with more concentration. If you fill your day with tasks, you will be rushing from one thing to the next without stopping to think about what you do.

5. PUT SPACE BETWEEN THINGS: Related to the “Do less” rule, but it’s a way of managing your schedule so that you always have time to complete each task. Don’t schedule things close together — instead, leave room between things on your schedule. That gives you a more relaxed schedule, and leaves space in case one task takes longer than you planned.

6. DEVELOP RITUALS: Zen monks have rituals for many things they do, from eating to cleaning to meditation. Ritual gives something a sense of importance — if it’s important enough to have a ritual, it’s important enough to be given your entire attention, and to be done slowly and correctly. You don’t have to learn the Zen monk rituals — you can create your own, for the preparation of food, for eating, for cleaning, for what you do before you start your work, for what you do when you wake up and before you go to bed, for what you do just before exercise. Anything you want, really.

“Smile, breathe and go slowly.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

7. DESIGNATE TIME FOR CERTAIN THINGS: There are certain times in the day a Zen monk designates for certain activities. A time for bathing, a time for work, a time for cleaning, a time for eating. This ensures that those things get done regularly. You can designate time for your own activities, whether that be work or cleaning or exercise or quiet contemplation. If it’s important enough to do regularly, consider designating a time for it.

8. DEVOTE TIME TO SITTING: In the life of a Zen monk, sitting meditation (zazen) is one of the most important parts of his day. Each day, there is time designated just for sitting. This meditation is really practice for learning to be present. You can devote time for sitting meditation, or do what you do to practice being in the moment. You could use any activity in the same way, as long as you do it regularly and practice being present.

9. SMILE AND SERVE OTHERS: Zen monks spend part of their day in service to others, whether that be other monks in the monastery or people on the outside world. It teaches them humility, and ensures that their lives are not just selfish, but devoted to others. If you’re a parent, it’s likely you already spend at least some time in service to others in your household, and non-parents may already do this too. Similarly, smiling and being kind to others can be a great way to improve the lives of those around you. Also consider volunteering for charity work.

10. MAKE CLEANING AND COOKING BECOME MEDITATION: Aside from the zazen mentioned above, cooking and cleaning are two of the most exalted parts of a Zen monk’s day. They are both great ways to practice mindfulness, and can be great rituals performed each day. If cooking and cleaning seem like boring chores to you, try doing them as a form of meditation. Put your entire mind into those tasks, concentrate, and do them slowly and completely. It could change your entire day (as well as leave you with a cleaner house).

11. THINK ABOUT WHAT IS NECESSARY: There is little in a Zen monk’s life that isn’t necessary. He doesn’t have a closet full of shoes, or the latest in trendy clothes. He doesn’t have a refrigerator and cabinets full of junk food. He doesn’t have the latest gadgets, cars, televisions, or iPod. He has basic clothing, basic shelter, basic utensils, basic tools, and the most basic food (they eat simple, vegetarian meals consisting usually of rice, miso soup, vegetables, and pickled vegetables). Now, I’m not saying you should live exactly like a Zen monk — I certainly don’t. But it does serve as a reminder that there is much in our lives that aren’t necessary, and it can be useful to give some thought about what we really need, and whether it is important to have all the stuff we have that’s not necessary.

12. LIVE SIMPLY: The corollary of Rule 11 is that if something isn’t necessary, you can probably live without it. And so to live simply is to rid your life of as many of the unnecessary and unessential things as you can, to make room for the essential. Now, what is essential will be different to each person. To some, yoga and spending time with close friends might be essential. For others it will be nursing and volunteering and going to church and collecting comic books. There is no law saying what should be essential for you — but you should consider what is most important to your life, and make room for that by eliminating the other less essential things in your life.

“We have more possibilities available in each moment
than we realize.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

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Rewrite Your Story

Detox Your Mind is about writing A Big List of Grievances in which you were asked to write down all your fears, cares, worries, upsets, grievances, everything that makes you afraid, sad, or hurt. You were asked to list people and situations that cause you any emotion other than perfect joy and happiness. THIS IS YOUR PAST… THESE ARE YOUR STORIES.

If you have NOT written your list yet, I urge you to do so. It’s like cleaning out the junk and putting everything in a trash bag and taking it to the curb. It is literally that simple. We love to analyze, fix and problem-solve, and hold on to situations we no longer want (hoping for change). We 'humans' love to make things into a big drama.

Look at your list. These are the stories that are active in your vibration. These are the thoughts that have been holding you hostage. BE AWARE OF THE STORIES YOU’VE BEEN TELLING.

WHEN YOU LOOK AT YOUR LIST ... JUST BE AWARE and realize that you can choose NEW stories that are TRUE from now on. You have a choice about what thoughts pass through your mind and you have a choice what words pass by your lips and out of your mouth.

This is what it means that ALL POWER HAS BEEN GIVEN TO YOU ON EARTH AND HEAVEN.

You have the power to choose. You have the power to decide which thoughts you will think. You have the power to choose what words you will use when you are speaking to people. When some old habit emerges, like wanting to judge someone or complain or gossip, you have the power to say “I’m not going there!” It’s within your power to NOT go there. It gets pretty fun at this level!

Your stories are neither good nor bad. They are nothing, but to you they are NOT NOTHING. As long as they have a charge for you, as long as they keep coming up in your consciousness, you are a victim to your emotions.

For years, I spent the majority of time flip-flopping between various states of mind: feeling sorry for myself, expectation and excitement, anger, feeling sorry for myself some more, being pissed off at God, wondering what I was doing wrong.

I went through a period where I went into isolation and stopped interacting with people. I thought, “Well, maybe I’m just supposed to be alone and be quiet.” I seriously thought this, for years! I decided for years to be a victim.

A MIRACLE STORY by Myrtle Fillmore, co-founder of the Unity movement. She was sick with tuberculous and malaria her entire life. When she was in her late 40s, she was given the idea that sickness is an illusion, just an outward condition of a state of mind and that you can heal anything by standing firmly in the truth, and not wavering. She began affirming “I AM A CHILD OF GOD, THEREFORE I CANNOT INHERIT SICKNESS.”

Every day she lived in gratitude and appreciation as Spirit, not paying any attention whatsoever to her sickness, which she knew wasn’t real.

She denied all and every appearance, even though the doctors told her she had only a few months to live. The appearances did not change for TWO WHOLE YEARS! For two years, it looked like it wasn’t working. She still appeared to have malaria and tuberculous, but it didn’t matter to her!! She KNEW she was healed. She KNEW she was Spirit.

She kept living and affirming I AM A CHILD OF GOD THEREFORE I CANNOT INHERIT SICKNESS.” She kept on being alive and vibrant and grateful. She prayed daily making conscious contact with God remembering the truth of her Christ Identity.

And two years later, the appearances of sickness were gone. It had been healed two years previously on the mind level but for her it took two years to show changes on the physical level – and she went on to live 45 more years, being a huge inspiration in this world to millions of people.

It took Myrtle Fillmore two years of affirming the truth “I am a child of God, therefore I cannot inherit sickness” before the appearance of malaria and tuberculous disappeared. She didn’t waver. She held her perfection in her mind every minute of every day and DENIED APPEARANCES.

Read my miracle story of healing here: Miracle of Forgiveness

YOU CHOOSE A TRUE STORY AND YOU STICK WITH THAT ONE, NO MATTER WHAT. If you’re going to tell a story, you might as well tell a good one !! You might as well tell one that brings you joy.

“It is impossible to see two worlds. You must choose” - L-130

”Perception is consistent. What you see reflects your thinking and your thinking but reflects your choice of what you want to see. Your values are determiners of this, for what you value you must want to see, believing what you see is really there. No one can see a world his mind has not accorded value. And no one can fail to look upon what he believes he wants.” - ACIM

1. BECOME AWARE OF THE STORIES YOU TELL.
2. BE WILLING TO TELL NEW STORIES THAT ARE TRUE.

Become aware of your “I” when you speak. Who is the “I” that is speaking?
It is it the Christ, wholly powerful, certain, graceful, patient, and generous?
Or is it the fear-based Victim, the Complainer, the Worrier, the Doubter?

When you talk, who is speaking?
When you think, who is thinking?
Just start noticing.

You will start to notice it’s as if you have a whole cast of characters that live inside of you. ONE OF THESE CHARACTERS IS TRUE. The others are all false and want to keep you in hell, dangling a carrot out to you making you believe that “some day you will get there.”

Until the integration occurs – which is what the transformation is … when the two become one, duality ends, and there is only Oneness.

YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. You are magnificent, whole and creative. You have been endowed with all of God’s Power, with the ability to create like Him.

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“Each day should be devoted to miracles. The purpose of time is to enable you to learn how to use time constructively.” – ACIM

Be daring; let yourself be born again and do something you have never done before. Fast from negative thinking or habits that no longer serve you, breaking old habits.

SPRING CLEANING

It’s necessary to look at conflict so it can be resolved. Make A BIG LIST OF GRIEVANCES; people who irritate you and problems or situations that annoy you.

In your quiet time, make a BIG LIST OF GRIEVANCES. Don’t try to be spiritual or holy. Make a list, in your journal or on a piece of paper, all the things that upset you or make you angry or afraid. Look with OPEN EYES at any conflict that is in your life. RELEASING, PURIFICATION and CLEAN-UP, most times, can look like a TOXIC wasteland, a much bigger mess than you started with.

Write out a list of NAMES OF PEOPLE.

Write out a list of SITUATIONS.

Write down the feelings you experience:  AFRAID … ANGRY … SAD …. FRUSTRATED

Then ask yourself, WHY DID I CAUSE THIS SITUATION? It’s an amazing day when you realize that you are the cause of everything that seems to happen to you.

What is my part in it?

What do I get out of it?

Are you willing to forgive yourself?

Are you willing to forgive others?

VERY IMPORTANT, MEGA IMPORTANT:

DO NOT – I REPEAT – DO NOT – POST THIS LIST ON-LINE. PLEASE DO NOT POST IT ANYWHERE. DO NOT SHOW IT TO ANYONE. DO NOT TALK ABOUT IT. DO NOT ANALYZE IT. JUST WRITE IT OUT.

 

This list for you and you alone. Your grievances and upsets have enough energy as it is, without you adding more energy to it by showing it to people or talking about it.

This work is about identifying THAT WHICH IS BLOCKING YOU and BEING WILLING TO LET IT GO. This work does not take years of therapy. It takes only one instant of willingness.

AND THAT IS ALL. We’re not going to analyze our hurts. We’re not going to attempt to fix them. We’re not going to feel guilty about the list. We’re not going to try to solve anything on the list. We are simply bringing our upsets into our awareness, front and center, where we can see them.

Bring these things into your awareness so that the LOVE THAT YOU ARE can heal them all perfectly.

In each of us is a memory of ALIVENESS, magnitude, grandeur, glory and grace. We know we are here to do something, which keeps calling to us, and we keep not doing it!

For the longest time, I would never look at problems or grievances. I tried to be spiritual and happy all the time. I would repeat sentences like “I have no problems"; "there is no world,” but I wasn’t in peace. I kept trying to push the conflict aside and just “be happy,” but I knew deep in my heart, I was missing some crucial piece of the puzzle.

Not looking at problems is actually the way to KEEP all those problems!

FORGIVENESS ENDS THE DREAM OF CONFLICT HERE -"Conflict must be resolved. It cannot be evaded, set aside, denied, disguised, seen somewhere else, called by another name, nor hidden by deceit of any kind, if it would be escaped. It must be seen exactly as it is, where it is thought to be, in the reality which has been given it, and with the purpose that the mind accorded it. For only then are its defenses lifted, and the truth can shine upon it as it disappears." L-333

The only way to really let problems go is to bring them into your awareness, into the light, and watch them change before your eyes. So we are going to look directly at conflict and problems with open eyes so that the light of our own forgiveness can shine it away! There is nothing to fear. Looking directly at your worst fear and walking directly into it would disappear!

When you are not fulfilling your function of living in love and creative expression (which is what You Are), you will find that every little thing annoys you and irritates you. Often people stay in jobs and relationships they don’t like, afraid to love, fearful of being creative and expressive. It often seems easier and more comfortable to keep playing small, than it does to step out of your comfort zone and start taking risks. 

Playing small is INTOLERABLE to the Spirit of you, the reaction is to be pissed off at everyone and everything. You wonder where and how your life went wrong. All you see about you is closed doors, missed opportunities, drudgery, routine and same old, same old.

“Trials are but lessons which you failed to learn presented once again, so where you made a faulty choice before you now can make a better one, and thus escape all pain which what you chose before has brought to you.” – ACIM

So where before you might have attempted to solve or fix a problem “to get rid of it” now you can see that it is A LESSON that “you failed to learn presented again so where you made a faulty choice before you now can make a better one.” And once you make “the better choice” in this situation, it will dissolve forever. Otherwise, it will have to be presented once again in some other future time until you learn the lesson it came to teach.

“There is a deep responsibility you owe yourself, and one which you must learn to remember ALL the time. The lesson will seem hard at first, but you will learn to love it, when you realize that it is true, and constitutes a tribute to your power. You who have sought AND FOUND littleness, remember this: Every decision that you make stems from WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE, and represents the value that you PUT upon yourself. Believe the little can content you, and, by LIMITING yourself, you will NOT be satisfied. For your function is NOT little, and it is only by finding your function, and fulfilling it that you can ESCAPE from littleness. There is no doubt about what your function IS, for the Holy Spirit KNOWS what it is. There is no doubt about its magnitude, for it reaches you through Him, FROM Magnitude. You do not have to strive for it, because you HAVE it. All your striving must be directed AGAINST LITTLENESS, for it DOES require vigilance to protect your magnitude in this world. To hold your magnitude in perfect awareness, in a world of littleness, is a task the little cannot undertake. Yet it is asked of you, in tribute to your magnitude, and NOT your littleness. Nor is it asked of you alone.” –ACIM

When you have a sincere desire for your life to change and you say YES, YES to God, YES to a new way of living, the changes will come of themselves, you put things in motion.

You are being reborn; your past is deleted. You begin to allow yourself to BE SHOWN what to do next, where to go, what to say – with no reference to the past. My advice is DO NOT LEAVE SITUATIONS OR PEOPLE. Do not leave your job. LET EVERYTHING UNFOLD. Do not push things to happen. Just relax, trust, and everything lines up perfectly in a way you could never plan yourself.

Ask Christ to dissolve everything and everyone that is not part of the Divine Plan of your life – this includes sickness and addiction. Allow the Light of Christ to be in your awareness and imagine it dissolving everything that is a block or obstacle to fulfilling your God-given function in the world.

In the beginning, as you practice living in joy, finding out what you love to do that makes you happy (because your function is happiness), you might begin to experience things falling away.

Simply start living in ways that make you happy. Find out what you want to do and start doing it. Nothing is holding you back except your own judgments and grievances.

Now you may be wondering how to deal with these people in your life who push all your buttons, the people you have to live with that you can’t get away from. You’ve tried forgiveness and it doesn’t work. I know, I’ve been there.

With my family, there was a lot of conflict, with brief moments of joy. I would use ideas from A Course in Miracles thinking they would change into loving characters. But they didn’t change. In fact, things got worse. I woke up every morning thinking it was going to be a new day, but there was always more conflict. The main theme in my relationships was people pushing me away. At least that’s what it felt like to me – they kept me at a distance and I was always trying to figure out how to make things work. Then I had a revelation! Just stay in joy! Stay in my own space and be happy. Get out of the battleground! Don’t participate in it, not even a little! And that’s exactly what I did. I started finding my own joy, even while he was in the same room.

I started finding that space where God is. I looked at people with new eyes – as someone without a past to me, as a friend and brother in Christ, as someone I loved and appreciated.

Then it got even MORE uncomfortable. The happier I became, the angrier these people seemed to get. I kept standing in joy. I didn’t waver. I kept remembering God and I kept remembering not to participate in conflict (which can be difficult to do when it’s right in your face).

One of my very favorite lines in A Course in Miracles is this, and I use it daily:

I HAVE DONE THIS THING AND IT IS THIS I WOULD UNDO.

I kept taking 100% responsibility: I AM THE CAUSE OF THIS CONFLICT. I AM CAUSING IT, AND I DON’T WANT IT ANYMORE.

When you stand in consistent joy, the people around you will either:

1. change and join you where you are in that place of joy

OR

2. they’ll disappear entirely

Don’t participate in the conflict. Simply find ways to stay in joy. WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND, THE WORLD CHANGES WITH YOU.

“We have said that you cannot change your mind by changing your behavior, but we have also said, and many times before, that you CAN change your mind. When your mood tells you that you have willed wrongly, and this is so whenever you are not joyous, then KNOW this need not be

In every case you have thought wrongly about some Soul that God created, and are perceiving images your ego makes in a darkened glass. Think honestly what you have thought that God would NOT have thought, and what you have NOT thought that God would have you think. Search sincerely for what you have done and left undone accordingly. And then change your minds to THINK WITH GOD’S.” –ACIM

Change your mind to think with God’s. How lovely … How simple!

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